'You're both idiots': New parents make an unconventional baby-naming deal, husband wants out after hearing wife's ideas

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jun 24, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

It's a well-worn trope that celebrities give their children wacky names (Think North West, Moon Unit Zappa, or most of Nick Cannon's many children). I wonder why that is. Maybe they know their kids will never struggle to find employment, so they're not worried about burdening them with an unusual name.  Perhaps it comes from a sense of entitlement and the need to stand out that most celebrities have (by virtue of being celebrities). Or maybe a lot of parents give their children offbeat names, and we just hear about the celebrity ones. Might be a combination of all three. 

But one new father recently learned that his mom-to-be had some far-out ideas for their child. But sadly for him, it was too late to go back on his word. Read on for the juicy details, and scroll to see the name they fought over. It might not be as bad as he thinks…

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    AITA for changing my mind about letting my gf name our son?
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    My gf is currently pregnant with our first child, which we recently learned was a boy. Before we knew the gender we made a deal that if it was a girl, I would choose name and if it was a boy she would pick. That was before I realized that I hated every single name on her list. Especially the
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    two that she was leaning toward the most, Elyan and Gawaine after the knights of the round table. One thing about her is that she has always been into fantasy and mythology, especially the Arthurian legends and she expressed that she has always loved both of these names.
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    Even though I didn't like her choices, I figure we didn't even know the gender yet so there was no point it bringing it up. Unfortunately, it turned out to be a boy (Not because I didn't want a boy, but because I didn't want to have this conversation).
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    I was hoping that she would change her mind and pick a better name, but no. She decided on Elyan, which I guess is better than Gawaine. But I still hate it. It sounds like a in a teen movie that they were trying way too hard to give a unique name.
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    I asked her if she had any normal names that we would both be happy with. She asked me what was wrong with the name she chose and I brought up the above mentioned concern. She got upset and told me that we had an agreement and she would have accepted any name I chose, even though she didn't like any of them either (I guess because they were normal names).
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    Now she'll barely talk to me. I've apologized for being so harsh about it, but I would at least like a say in the matter. I even mentioned another name that was on her list that I didn't hate as much (Leon) but she won't budge.
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    I honestly don't think it's unreasonable for me to want to have a say in my own sons name, but everyone I've talked to said that they actually really like the name an it's not fair for me to go back on our deal. So AITA?
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    Flimsy_Task8579. 4 min. ago YTA what a foolish agreement. Just call him Eli for short and live with it. You don't really have a choice now without being a total and essentially, a liar. She won't forget even if she gives in
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    annimal1 4 min. ago YTA. You knowingly and willingly created this situation.
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    Street-Length9871. 33 min. ago YTA - you made a deal. The name is cute and not even unusual in today's world. Sounds like you were fine with the deal until you found out it was a boy. You offended her taste in names and backed out on the deal.
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    MotherofCats9258 7 min. ago YTA, you made an agreement assuming it would favor you, it didn't work out how you wanted, so you went back on your word.
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    . Harry-Jotter 39 min. ago I don't like the names but YTA for making the deal in the first place if you weren't serious about keeping to it. And especially for: "I figure we didn't even know the gender yet so there was no point it bringing it up." It's not like it's a massive shock that your child was male.
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    Imaginary_Ad7873. 47 min. ago You're both idiots. If you plan on bringing a child into the world you should both get better at discussions and not play stupid games that will ultimately only affect your child. Get a
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    pet fish and call that all the weird names you want but this is your child! Surely there are names you can both agree on? It would be a shame to start your parenting journey being mad and upset at each other.
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    Choppermagic2. 7 min. ago You made a deal with the woman you love. You shouldn't dismiss it lightly. I can imagine you have a name pciked out for your daughter that you wouldn't give up easily. You expressed your concerns. Pick a middle name he can use if he gets picked on too much. The name is kind of cool btw.
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    Skyward93 54 min. ago ESH-I think making name deals is dumb as and always backfires so that was the first move. But, you should be allowed to veto. I would apologize to her and ask if she would mind considering other names. You might have to just accept it.
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    Kittenn1412.52 min. ago Honestly I really like Elyan. It doesn't fall into the family of "really unfortunate names" that could make life difficult for someone, and it's not so "old-English and fantasy" that it sounds like someone is giving their kid their LotR OC's name.
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    Electrical-Ad-1798 · 3 min. ago ESH, you for going back on your word and for agreeing to this stupid deal in the first place. Her for the ridiculously unacceptable name she picked and for disregarding your opinion when it was reasonable.
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